Thanks to Alisia Martino, writer of the Emotional Wellness blog, here is a great exposition of how to relate effectively to one's inner child. I've found inner child work challenging but I know it's essential to healing from traumatic childhood. Alisia has said it much more eloquently than I've been able to. Inside each and everyone … Continue reading The inner child — Emotional Wellness
When you’re browsing the internet reading about Myers-Briggs types, you’ll probably see people talking about “shadow functions.” This is a confusing concept, because people use the term “shadow” to refer to several different things related to personality types.
Every type in the Myers-Briggs system has what we call a “function stack,” which describes how they interact with the outer world, process information, and make judgements. There are 8 possible functions (extroverted and introverted versions of Sensing, Intuition, Feeling, and Thinking), and each types uses four functions:
- Primary Function
- Auxiliary Function
- Tertiary Function
- Inferior Function
The primary and auxiliary functions are the ones we use most comfortably, the tertiary function develops as we mature, and the inferior function is largely outside our conscious control. Much of what makes one type distinct from another has to do with how we…
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Back in July, we brought home our very first little bundle of fur - a white standard poodle puppy named Snowy. We got her from a good breeder and she's doing well. The breeder is training us (not the dog - us) to train her. We have no idea what we're doing so we're very … Continue reading Meet our new puppy, Snowy!
I have been trying to figure out why it's so hard for me to post on this blog (yes, unfortunately I am a perfectionist, now trying not to be). I've been working my butt off in therapy, doing inner child work. I've been using materials from Sharon Salzberg, one of the best mindfulness meditation teachers … Continue reading Whatever Stuff Is On My Mind
These studies were pretty robust in the late 1990s. Why is this only getting attention now?
HBO’s four-part series, “The Weight of the Nation”, says a lack of exercise, genetics, an overabundance of sugar and food marketing cause 78 million Americans to be obese and morbidly obese. But HBO missed something significant — the link between obesity and adverse childhood experiences. For millions of people, it’s more important than all the rest.
More than six million obese and morbidly obese people are likely to have suffered physical, sexual and/or verbal abuse during their childhoods, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s ACE Study. It’s likely that millions more can point to other types of childhood trauma – including loss of a parent through divorce, living with an alcoholic parent or a mentally ill family member – or other traumatic experiences such as rape or assault — as a starting point for their weight gain.
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What the heck? When all else fails, watch cute baby panda videos. Watching cute stuff like this probably releases oxytocin or something in our brains that make us feel good. It's all good.
As a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), introvert and INFP, I have been familiar with the Orchid vs. Dandelion theory of temperament since 2009, when David Dobbs wrote about it for The Atlantic. The basic idea of this theory is that children who are genetically prone to being highly sensitive, like an orchid, are highly sensitive … Continue reading Orchid People, Orchid Science
Poet/philosopher David Whyte's poem/essay on why we must accept our vulnerability in order to live a full life reminded me of Brene Brown’s YouTube video on vulnerability and SHAME. Shame and vulnerability are very dirty words in our lovely culture. But what David Whyte and Brene Brown trying to get across here is that coming to … Continue reading On Shame, Vulnerability, Self-Acceptance and Living Life to the Fullest